You realize that after two months of being in this country,
everybody expects me to behave as if I have fully adjusted to the Kenyan
Culture. They expect me to behave in a completely Kenyan way but the reality is
time away has changed me and though I may seem like someone who has adjusted
well, the reality is deep within I do get lost. I feel like I neither belong
here fully nor to the Norwegian culture I lived in for a while; Call it
identity crisis I guess.
For instance, the other day I visited a high profile
journalist in Kenya in what was to be our first meeting. We had been
communicating for a while over phone and Email but had never really met. I
dressed up in what I felt to be the most comfortable way in the July sun in a polo
neck T-shirt and a trouser and happily placed a back pack on my shoulders and
went to meet him. This was quite something different than my usual jeans and
T-shirt which I was used to in Norway. He was not impressed with my dressing
style though as he later told me. He must have expected me to be more in a suit
and without the back pack. He told me, after a while of course, that the moment
he saw me, his first impression would have been to send me away as I did not
look the part. My only saving point was the confident and re-assuring manner in
which I presented myself from the handshake to the talking, he said.
A friend of mine whom we were together at Hald International
Centre told me that I may never feel fully at home here because ‘’ part of you will always be in Norway.’’ I agree especially
after this past weekend I spent some time with a former Hald student from
Kenya. He tells me there are moments he really does feel lost and even after
many months of being here, there are things he has never fully adjusted to like
the noise in the buses here. It has helped though to have such understanding
friends as Eva, Steve and Grace to hang out with and share our experiences
with. And also being occupied with my
new pet project iRead Kenya (http://ireadkenya.blogspot.com/) has proved helpful but
this is a never-ending struggle though to adjust and so a luta continua (the struggle
continues).